Are you looking for answers as to why you feel the way you do?

In this episode, I explore the energies of our emotions, the lightness of the emotions, love, joy & peace, vs the heaviness of emotions such as fear, anger, guilt, and shame, and how to move from those heavier emotions into the lighter emotion of love, even when it feels hard!    I also touch on the 5 Love Languages, from Gary Chapman’s work, so that you can better understand how those closest to you like to receive love, so you can show them your love in a way that is meaningful to them, February is the month of love, there is no better time to explore this with your family. Click the link below to discover your love language: 

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if you were in your 20s. Again, what would that be? Like?

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you? What is your health worth to you? Think about it. Your

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been taught how to be proactive in our health through our school

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system, or public health. As a registered health coach and

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integrative health practitioner, I believe it is time this

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tomorrow's don't wait for your wakeup call.

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Welcome back to the don't wait for your wake up call. I am your

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host, Melissa de Li and super excited to be launching a

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another theme this month. February is the month of love.

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And some say money makes the world go around. But I would

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love to see us get to a place where love makes the world go

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around. Because as humans, our deepest emotional need is the

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need to feel love. So I want to ask you to just stop and close

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your eyes. Unless of course you're driving. And think for a

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moment. What does the word love mean to you. And then think

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about how does love feel to you think back to that first kiss

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that feeling of floating the pitter patter of your heart, the

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melting of your insides, the bursting heart, the smile on

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your face, the warmth that spreads throughout your body. Or

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maybe it's not even a romantic kiss. Maybe it's that first kiss

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of your newborn. For the first time your newborn baby looks

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into your aisle eyes and smiles at you with love in their eyes.

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We feel all those same chemical responses in the body. Right

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regardless of what type of love it is. It's it's just maybe

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stronger in some forms than others. But the body is

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responding chemically. And love is one of the highest levels of

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emotions. And it comes with a lightness in our being right we

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feel light, airy, like almost like we're walking on air. And

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above love are in fact joy and then peace. Below love are many

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other emotions, which you will notice get heavier as we move

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down the list. And if we go right towards the bottom of the

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list, we're going to find emotions like anger, fear,

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grief, guilt, and shame is at the very bottom of that list.

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There are other emotions in between. But I really wanted to

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highlight these heavy, heavier emotions for you at the bottom

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of the list knowing that you would understand that heaviness

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that comes with them that feeling in your body of being

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weighed down, bogged down, we are all energy and these

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emotions are energies too. And when we carry around heavy

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energies, it truly does weigh us down, we can feel like we have

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the weight of the world on our shoulders. But when we instead

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enjoy and live in a place of the lighter emotions of love and joy

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and peace, we feel lighter as if we are walking on air. So how do

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we move from one end of that spectrum to the other? Well,

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that's life's journey, right? And all along the way we get to

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make choices. And when we understand this, we can be

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making better choices as we can put our decisions through the

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filter of these lighter emotions and ask ourselves questions such

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as, how would I respond if I were responding from a place of

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love rather than judgment, dislike or disapproval? How can

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I approach this from a place of love? Even difficult situations

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can be approached With love. What does it mean to me right

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now to approach this from love, not fear, or anger. And all of

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this takes practice, right. And it just starts with awareness

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that you can do this, that before you respond to a

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situation, you can stop and just do a little check in and ask

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these questions of yourself. And sometimes it can feel really

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hard to approach situations from a place of love. Because those

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heavier emotions are getting in the way, the anger, the feelings

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of being unfairly treated, judged or hurt, or because of

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past history of feeling, unjustly treated by others in

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general. This happens in family relationships a lot. And perhaps

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you've experienced this when it comes to family holiday

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gatherings, you maybe you're wary of attending because you

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don't want to see that someone who triggers you.

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And you know, they will, because they always say something that

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gets under your skin. And so that makes avoidance one easy

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option, right. And many people want to avoid those scenarios,

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or you go but you go with your backup or you go and you don't

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really want to be there. And so we can start to turn that

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around. If you're enjoying my content, and someone that wants

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to step into being proactive in your health and learning more,

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It's truly priceless. I'd love to see you join the

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community,

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check out the link in the show notes. So there

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are a few steps that you can take here to help you stay in

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alignment with choosing love first. And that first one is

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forgiveness. Now before you react and think why should I

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forgive them, they hurt me, I didn't do anything, this is all

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their fault. I want you to be open to the fact that

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forgiveness is the key to liberation from being a victim.

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Let's say that again. Forgiveness is the key to

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liberation from being a victim. It doesn't make the other person

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right. It doesn't condone their behavior. What it does is it

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puts you back in control of your thoughts and feelings and it

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frees you from the imprisonment of the pain. This is a choice

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that allows you to move forward. Very often we carry these

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painful experiences with us. And the only person that impacts is

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ourselves. The other person doesn't even realize that

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they've heard us or that we are still harboring the pain.

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They've moved on with their lives. But we are stuck in this

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place carrying the pain, resentment avoiding the person

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and more. But when we forgive, we free ourselves from all of

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that, to live our life from a place of love. The second idea

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is to dawn your love bra or love cape for attending events where

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you know, there'll be somebody who triggers you, I love this

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one. The idea is that prior to going to a family event of some

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sort where you know, you will see someone who triggers you,

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you put on your imaginary bright red love bra, or your bright red

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love cape. And this is super powerful as this bra or Cape

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will protect you. You see, only love can enter your body through

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this protective layer. It repels all other emotions back out away

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from you. And only love can come out of your body via this love

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bra and cape. It definitely takes some practice it is a bit

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of a mindset shift. But when you go to the event wearing your

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love bra or your cape with that conscious thought that I will

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only allow love in and I will only allow love out. It makes a

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huge difference in how you can show up at the event. So, as I

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said it takes some practice, but it really does allow you to

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focus on what is important in the moment, which is love and to

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shine that out to me those around you to not only accept

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love in, but allow the love out to all of those around you. I've

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had many clients Dawn their love bras and capes before family

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weddings and head their bravely and report back that the event

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went so much more smoothly than expected. And they enjoyed it

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more than they thought they would. As a result. I even had a

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client one time who told me that she used this over zoom, talking

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to her in laws with her partner. And she had always found that

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her in laws were so critical of her partner. And she was just

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kind of tired of it. And she thought you know what I'm going

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to wear my love brought the Zoom meeting. And I'm only going to

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get let love in and only let love go out towards them. And

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when they started being critical, she just focused on,

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I'm sending them love, I'm sending them love, I'm sending

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them love. And she said it was fascinating because his mum just

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kind of suddenly stopped mid sentence in the middle of being

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critical. And kind of shook her head a little bit and change the

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subject to something a whole lot more positive. And she was just

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blown away. That even over zoom with her focusing on I'm sending

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them love and sending them love that somehow the mum picked up

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on that enough to stop the criticism, change the subject

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into something much more positive. So this is powerful.

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When we send love out into the world, the world can receive it.

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And it can shift how people respond to you. Because you are

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sending them love.

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Avoidance of issues, and avoiding people that trigger us

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just has us carrying around heavier emotions for longer

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bogging down our physical being draining our energy levels, and

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weakening our immune system to almost squash down emotions

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really do weaken our immune system. And so we have to

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instead allow our body to process them and release them.

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And that forgiveness piece is so important for anything that's

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been harbored before. And then for anything new, when we choose

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that place of love. We can in mentally also allow for the

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emotions to be processed, and released. Emotions moving

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through our body move through as a chemical reaction in less than

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90 seconds is what we choose to do with those emotions that can

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get them stuck. So we can be focusing on it so much that the

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chemical reaction has long since ended. But we hold on to the

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memory and squash it down. Or we can release it and say I'm going

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to choose to still show them love even though this is how

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they made me feel. I'm going to forgive them for that. Maybe

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it's having a conversation with them around. This is how it made

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me feel I'm sure you didn't mean it that way. So I must have

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misunderstood you. Maybe that's also a conversation that can be

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had, right? When we can address this from a place of love, or

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release people through forgiveness, or both, we can

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elevate ourselves to a higher energy level. And in doing so we

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feel lighter, calmer, and happier in the process. And the

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more we practice this, the more people we draw into our circle,

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that are functioning at that same high energy level, focusing

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on love, which expands our love circle. And it expands it

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exponentially and results in us living a happier, more joyful

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life. Love truly can make the world go around. As we continue

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to expand our circle and the natural ripple effect that

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happens as a result. As Tony Robbins says, energy flows where

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attention goes. So when we focus on love, the energy of love

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expands and flows in our life. And then you get to feel those

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light happy, warm, joyful feelings all the time.

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So now that you understand the energies of love, let's talk

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about the love languages. As these matter in how you relate

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Build relationships, relationships with those you

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love the most. So this is the work of Gary Chapman. For those

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of you watching on YouTube, I'm holding up his book here. It's

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called The Five Love Languages. And the five love languages are

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words of affirmation, or quality time, or receiving gifts, or

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acts of service, or physical touch. So, we all have some of

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these within us, you might be thinking, My like words of

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affirmation, but I also like receiving gifts. Or maybe you're

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the person that says I love physical touch. And I like

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quality time, right? So you can definitely be more than one you

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can have several of these types of love languages within you.

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But you generally have one primary language and

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understanding your own primary language. And that of your

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partner is very helpful, because your partner's love language

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might be completely different to yours. And if you're showing

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your love for them, based on your own love language, it may

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not be as meaningful to them. For instance, if you love

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receiving gifts, but they want words of affirmation, and you're

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buying them gifts, that's not speaking to them in their love

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language, right. And so understanding this is really,

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really important. Someone else might be have acts of service as

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number one on their list. And yours is receiving gifts, and

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you're giving them gifts, really, they would just much

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rather help with laundry and the dishes, right the acts of

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service. So this is really powerful information to have and

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to understand because of course, we all come from different

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backgrounds and our love languages are impacted by how we

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were raised as children. And it doesn't just relate to romantic

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partners either, but it does relate to your relationships

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with your kids, even friends, colleagues, etc. And so I'll put

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a link in the show notes so that you can go online and do the

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quiz from the book in order to determine the love languages of

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your whole family. So have fun discovering your love languages,

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donning your love bra or your love cape, and finding every

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opportunity to lead with your heart and come from a place of

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love, lightness, happiness and joy. On my next show, I'm

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interviewing a relationship expert as we dive into romantic

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love. So until next time, I'm sending you love. And thank you

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very much for listening.

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